The answer
There are many ways to overcome anger:- Try to find out what triggers your anger and avoid it.
- Have a humble heart. A humble person does not anger anyone nor get angry from anyone.
- He that angers thinks he is right and only sees the faults of others.
- Withstand the wrongdoings of others with joy.
- Blame yourself for everything that happens and do not blame others, this will quench your anger.
- In the midst of your anger, try to think of the consequences of the words you might feel inclined to utter.
- St. James says, "let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath" (James 1:19). Being slow to wrath makes a person surpass the emotional stage, come to his senses and be patient. Consequently, the reasons for anger will dissipate.
- Silence in time of anger is a virtue. Do not exchange harsh words with the other party but keep your silence unless you have tender words.
- Love those who anger you for "Love bears all things" (1Cor 13:7) and try to understand them.
- Let anger pass by and do not hold on to it. St. Paul says "Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath" (Rom 12:19). Give place to wrath means give it way to go away and do not cling onto it.
- Pray asking God to give you calmness, patience, self-control and longsuffering.
- Pray for the person who made you angry and forgive him/her.
"The wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God" (James 1:20). "Wise men turn away from wrath" (Prov 29:8). "The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger" (Prov 19:11). "He who is slow to wrath has great understanding" (Prov 14:29).
Answered by His Eminence Metropolitan Youssef (opens in a new tab)