The answer
Marriage includes a great deal of friendship, laughter, ability to share thoughts, respectful disagreements, admiration, and unconditional love. With whom do you feel most comfortable? Who do you feel reciprocates your admiration at the same mature level? Whose personality, sense of humor, spiritual focus, and temperament is compatible with yours? With whom do you enjoy to keep company? God’s Gods' voice can often be heard in the answers to these questions. Marriage cannot be about breaking a tie amongst candidates and God opening and closing doors.If you are at a standstill and cannot choose amongst three women which one is most suitable for you, then perhaps, none of them are. The right mate for you is the one whom will stand out the most. She will comprise everything that you are seeking in a spouse, providing that your desires are pure and reasonable. There can only be one woman whom your heart will favor and with whom you will desire to seek a deep companionship leading to Holy Matrimony. For Jacob, it was only Rachel who won his heart. Having been tricked into marrying Leah, still he always favored Rachel, because he loved her. You may desire various attributes in many women, but you can only really love just one woman.
Answered by His Eminence Metropolitan Youssef (opens in a new tab)