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The question

Marrying a woman much younger than a man seems to be the fashion these days. Does the church have a comment on that?

The answer

It all has to do with the maturity level of both man and woman. If the younger man is mature enough and the age difference small, such a marriage can be successful. If the age difference is quite big, then a few points need to be considered:

Maturity Level: If the younger man seems mature enough at the time of marriage, a few years down the road, this age difference might become counterproductive and causes problems. Women tend to mature faster than men. As a result the woman might assume an air of superiority and condescension regarding her spouse.

Self-confidence: As the woman gets older she might loose her self-confidence when she realizes how much younger her spouse is. She starts to take drastic measure to hide her real age and every birthday would be a reminder of how much older she is.

Jealousy: A great difference in age might cause jealousy. Once a woman feels that she is getting older and her spouse is still young (in male terms), she starts to doubt everything he does.

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