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Marital Problems

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The question

I have been married for 14 years. We didn't know each other well before the marriage. And since the first day problems have started but we have always managed to get over them and move on. Recently we have been fighting very frequently. My husband appears to be a very religious and pious person; but at home he is a different one. Recently with every argument, he has been threatening to sell the house and pursue divorce or separation. I am praying but nothing is working. I don't deny my role in our problem. I have been praying a lot and fasting for our marriage but things seem to be getting worse. What can I do?

The answer

I do not know the nature of your disagreements but in general most domestic disputes are a result of pride. I am sure if you both try to listen to each other more patiently, you will be able to carry decent conversation without arguments. Did you try to be the submissive wife and give him room to be the decision maker in the household? I am sure if you continue praying and try to avoid doing what upsets him, peace will come to your home. There are three books that I highly recommend for both of you to read:
  • "A Lasting Promise: A Christian Guide to Fighting for Your Marriage" by Scott Stanley, Daniel Trathen, Savanna McCain and Milt Bryan
  • "Living Happily Ever After" by Bob Mumford
  • "Divorce Busting" by Michelle Weiner-Davis

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